Next Level Communication with your Spouse

By: Ezy Odimuko

Next Level Communication with your Spouse

According to, communication is the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing, or signs. the act or process of communicating; fact of being communicated. activity by one organism that changes or has the potential to change the behavior of other organisms. transfer of information from one cell or molecule to another, as by chemical or electrical signals. Marriage is a life long journey of communication and growing into oneness.

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” ‭‭Genesis‬ ‭2:24-25‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

2. There are three levels of communication.

The Basic Communication Stage:
This is the level most people who are starting out operate in. They ask questions and they get answers. “How are you?” “Fine” At this level, people know enough to get by. At this level partners are slowly removing barriers to enable them forge a closer bond. The guards we put up to prevent us from getting emotionally hurt are very present in this stage. This is a good stage to start out on but not a stage to remain. Couples must strive to get to know each other in a deeper way.

The Essential Communication Stage:
This stage is closer than the basic. Here partners are able to talk in more depth. They go from mono syllable communication to having conversations just about the essentials in their lives. As they develop more trust for each other, they become more comfortable to share their feelings. While this stage is a progression from the basic stage, yet couples usually find that they are yearning for more. They don’t just want to have a discussion about school when it’s time for the children to go to school, or talk about finances when the need demands that they talk, rather they yearn to be able to express themselves fully without fear of being judged. They are desiring a more in Intimate level of communication with their partner.

The Intimate Communication Stage:
This is the communication stage that healthy marriages operate at. It is the stage that every single person, newly wed, or young couple must aspire to in their marriage. This level of intimacy in communication requires that we let down our guards and dismantle barriers that hinder us.
This level of communication demands love, trust, openness and a oneness that only God can give. Couples must make effort to work hard to achieve this. Even when this level is achieved, effort must be made to maintain it by strengthening the relationship between the partners. To attain this level of communication in your relationship there must be a

1. Leaving: When God calls you into a marriage with your spouse, you must make effort to leave- in order to form a new bond with your spouse. Leaving may take the form of leaving family and friends.

2. And be joined to his wife. You notice the man has to leave and then be joined to his wife. ( not, be joined to his girlfriend) there are levels of intimacy you cannot attain with your partner outside of a marriage relationship. Sometimes people seek intimacy in communication outside of marriage it does not work. This highest level of intimacy in communication demands the love, trust and safety of marriage and even then it must be sought for with love, patience and prayer.

3. They shall become one flesh. This act of becoming of one flesh is one of the greatest gifts of marriage, designed to merge two people together in unity. This is an important aspect of marriage that should come after people are joined in marriage. Sex before marriage can destroy a couple’s ability to have communication at the highest level in marriage for a number of reasons such as break on trust. Sex can bring couples closer together.

4. They were both naked but not ashamed. Where can a person be naked and not ashamed? In a healthy, loving, intimate marriage relationship.

Satan’s whispers and suggestions often intercept good communication.
Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. The best way to prevent the enemy from gaining access to your heart is to dwell in the secret place of God through prayer.

I know your marriage is important to you. Allow the Holy Spirit to guide you to make the right decision daily. Begin to encourage a healthy and open communication between you & your spouse and May God bless you as you do so. 💕


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